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Beyond Self-Love & Singleness: Navigating the Complexities of Personal Fulfillment

  Happy Valentine's Day to all singles and those struggling with anything. We sensitive people feel more, love harder, and hurt more frequently than the average person. As I age, life gets harder, but despite loneliness and complex situations, I can say 'not all the time am I well.' Prioritize your needs in all aspects of life. If you have children, create space for them to develop fully. Young adults struggle due to what they were denied access to. Don't let your fears and trauma as a parent confuse your future adult children. It's complex and emotional.  I know 1st gen parents are exactly like that and my dad was, over the past 5 years,I have gained so much knowledge and understanding of this causes and effects that shaped "why I am." All these emotions of if someone will find me is totalling my brain at the end of the night. Its like how can I do it, when these experiences were told "no ".     - These are my unsaid feelings. 

The Science Of Love Shaming

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                                              The Science of Love Shaming                                               “Love” is a word that has prevailed since the beginning.  It's an emotion, a great feeling of endearment. As in intimate relationships, including dating and marriage, we are more harmonious in understanding the concept of consummate love, or companionate love. Robert Sternberg describes these in the now-proposed Triangular Theory of Love .  Non-platonic relationships happen at different times for anyone. Since these hormones start to drive and take effect around the age of 14 to 16, this is when most feelings and sexual exploration arises.   "You are totally out of his or her league; why are they together?" Love-shaming emerges. Few of us had our relationships questioned. Love shaming happens . As you get older, those around you should be more respectful. These comments can affect the feelings and emotions of a potential match. Why? When you are interes

From Education To Aviation An Entrepreneur From The Bahamas Is Making Moves

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      When thinking of The Bahamas, we think of an elegant tourist attraction with deep blue oceans and tan sands. Rarely mention the people of this island. Andrea Wood is a woman from The Bahamas and a jack of all trades. Not only in the Bahamas; but here in the US as well.  Born and raised in Nassau, Bahamas, Wood-Wilson moved to the US in 1996 and pursued college. She obtained a bachelor's degree at Fort Valley State in Middle Grades Education and another at Middle Georgia State University. However, she got a master's at the online school Walden University. While in The Bahamas, she had begun her start in modeling through her adolescent and teen years.  That was when she first became introduced to beauty.  A self-described tomboy as a child. In 2010 Andrea joined a body-positive organization called Curvy Alliance  in Georgia . “I had an extremely active role as a brand ambassador; I became involved in photoshoots, fashion shows, and the creative process behind it all.”   Com

Bringing Soca to A Wider Audience : Meet Kittwani Oscar

                 “We measure your smile, and not your waistline” is the slogan for Kittness Dance Fitness Studio. Owner, Kittwani Oscar, says, “ I came up with it because I want women to feel confident when they work out. I encourage them to stop thinking about their body image or size and focus on having fun, enjoying the exercise, and dancing to great music. She started dancing as a member of the praise dance team.     Oscar moved to the US as a teen from The Commonwealth Of Dominica. As time went on, she soon transitioned to the American lifestyle. “ It was a culture shock, but I got used to it as time passed .” Caribbean island country Dominica is a small country in the Lesser Antilles.  The population is under 72,000, and Dominica is relative for its African and French influences. However, just like most Caribbean countries, Dominica has its connection to music and dance.  Oscar brings these elements to Kittness Dance Studio. “ Soca is a Caribbean music genre that is an offsho

My Reawakening & What I Should Have Done Better in 2021

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  Hello there! It's been almost three months since I posted anything on this blog!  I was at my lowest point since 2017. In my opinion, it has nothing to do with the pandemic.  Atlanta's social life is erratic and odd. I made a big step forward. I happened to have a whole vision board laid out for that year!! My vision board consisted of staying fit, cooking, mindful development, and creating relationships. Making connections and establishing friendships is my most important goal. Last year, I spent 65% of my time creating social connections.  Church-related and Christian-centered young adult groups were prevalent.  Now, this is something that I should have done better in 2021.  By that, I mean leaving the mold of a community that is no longer part of my identity. When it came to my first step of establishing this form of a relationship. I found myself reverting to the mold. It was not for validation, it was to fulfill my satisfaction and make my life easier. Havin

I Try To Take Deep Breaths Everyday

  Its always one after another What is here,  what is there People in my life, too old People in my, life too young People in my life, my age I prioritize relationships too much That love I need  either not supported  Each direction goes opposite  of its direction  Plans happen , opportunities happen Transportation does not happen  I try to take a deep breath

Fulfilling One’s Needs When Relationships Are Challenging

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                      I am just sitting in my bedroom,  many times I don't know what I'm doing. I am the type to know what I'm looking for and what I want.  Those are the thoughts going through my brain writing this. I am sure you can relate to it. When you're getting close to finding the right guy, it's never close enough. Maybe it's just overthinking , now it feels like going for a shot. I am reflecting back on my childhood and my interpersonal relationships.  There are four types of relationships: Family relationships, Friendships, Acquaintanceships and Romantic relationships . .  Romantic relationships of any kind are more unrefined compared to the other following relationships.  It's the hardest to find yet the most heart and fulfilling completed one.  Late comedian Rodney Dangerfield once joked, "a lot of people go to a psychiatrist  , cause they never got enough love as a kid . " I think I am giving too much attention to forming romantic