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Using Dating Apps As A First Time Dater

  In a post back, I mentioned at 21, I'm ready to date. This is just an update of how its going so far. I just have to tell it unattached. Due to COVID,  I am actually going through apps. So far I tried five. This is in no particular order. NOTE: Its all basically the talking stage, dating is more official. This is just getting to know. Its not dating until, both you and that person have agreed! Blendr- I do not reccomend it, its poorly designed. The layout is messy and unorganized. There was one guy I found on Bumble, I eventually unmatched with him. Then, he popped up again on Blendr!! We had matched as well on there .AKWARD. The guys seemed to move fast, one was just super impatient.   I asked a question about his intersts, he came off sassy.  It is still good to know and learn despite the differences. It does not always have to be similarity.   Tinder- . I matched with 5 out of the 99 potenials. I messaged each of them "hi, how are you" 3 of them did not reply. Two d

The Black "Cisgender* Community Has To Approved

 I am a supporter of LGBTQ and everything it is is itself. I am just going to be straight up and honest. I come from an extremely Christian household with being a "Preacher's kid" both of my parents had and still still has an utter disgust of lgbt.  Anytime my mom sees a couple who is same sex or a person that doesn't meet his or her expectations of a stereotypical heterosexual female or male. She will go in private, taunt,call names and even say stuff like "you see that fa***t, sissy" I hate when she says "hmm, someone must have taken advantage of him, that is a sin! "  A couple of years ago, I heard my my mom saying homophobic slurs, I told her to just stop it.   We were watching a TV show there is a gay character, in one scene he kisses his boyfriend' My mom starts acting like an idiot saying "eww" What do you want to see? Seriously that is what she acts like. Hey look! ;Majority of older ride or die  Christians in my family are ho

My Kickoff To Dating and Virginity At 21

  "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" Back at my high school, that statement was pretty common among teenage boys looking for a girlfriend.   I was 17 pretty busy with journalism and ballet. I was not really interested.   Most Americans lose their virginity at 17 via  a survey conducted by the Center of  Disease  Control. It is a statistic that I commonly agree with. It was in 10th or 11th grade, I actually started seeing "actual couples" and  teen pregnancy.  Being a curious teen, I leaned to other  resources for information about sex and dating through entertainment . I grew up in a Christian household as a preacher's kid. There were expectations  and dos and don'ts attached to me.  Therefore dating and sex was that taboo conversation.  Regardless,  sex education makes most Americans uncomfortable that is just our culture.  It  applied to my life as well, dating and sex in my household were not talked about. I only knew about my menstrual cycle.  "