Fulfilling One’s Needs When Relationships Are Challenging

 

                   

I am just sitting in my bedroom,  many times I don't know what I'm doing. I am the type to know what I'm looking for and what I want. 

Those are the thoughts going through my brain writing this. I am sure you can relate to it. When you're getting close to finding the right guy, it's never close enough. Maybe it's just overthinking , now it feels like going for a shot.

I am reflecting back on my childhood and my interpersonal relationships.  There are four types of relationships: Family relationships, Friendships, Acquaintanceships and Romantic relationships. .  Romantic relationships of any kind are more unrefined compared to the other following relationships.  It's the hardest to find yet the most heart and fulfilling completed one. 

Late comedian Rodney Dangerfield once joked, "a lot of people go to a psychiatrist  , cause they never got enough love as a kid . " I think I am giving too much attention to forming romantic relationships and friendships.  That stems from lack of communication and progression in relationships that are second guessing social skills and cues. 

Anyone with relationship struggles and just starting out will know. Eventually, it will all start to come together with experience and time. Why is it like this?

Unlike native language and stages of development such as milestones, human growth. Technically belonging is one of five hierarchy needs.   Friendships , romantic relationships, acquaintanceships ,clubs these are mental and emotional. 

 

Anyone can argue against the structure of it. Most of the time, these needs are not equal, one or two needs are missing and not present at all. Growing up for myself, relationships and belonging was not on my pyramid at all. Now, being in my 20s and life in general, belonging is more higher with myself actualization. Where you are with psychological needs shifts for many reasons that come with priorities in the current or future to come. That can either make long or short term effects on you especially in social needs. 

That is what makes this one so complex, the main takeaway from it is rotating that need(s) to an adjustment.  That will make the ultimate outcomes of social needs in fulfillment regardless of the imbalance!.