The Science Of Love Shaming

 

                                            The Science of Love Shaming

                        

                    “Love” is a word that has prevailed since the beginning.  It's an emotion, a great feeling of endearment. As in intimate relationships, including dating and marriage, we are more harmonious in understanding the concept of consummate love, or companionate love. Robert Sternberg describes these in the now-proposed Triangular Theory of Love. 

Non-platonic relationships happen at different times for anyone.

Since these hormones start to drive and take effect around the age of 14 to 16, this is when most feelings and sexual exploration arises.

 

"You are totally out of his or her league; why are they together?"

Love-shaming emerges. Few of us had our relationships questioned. Love shaming happens. As you get older, those around you should be more respectful. These comments can affect the feelings and emotions of a potential match. Why? When you are interested in someone, a friend or parent may become clingy to you. To establish a linear ground, begin with an open discussion of your needs and ensure an understanding of the differing opinions. 

     They can decide if they want to be supportive. Support will ultimately come down to respecting each other's emotions. Your partner should also address the conversations you have with the person especially if there are false projections about your partner. They can listen to your feelings.  

Jealously can influence the outcome of the circumstances in our personal lives. Protecting your energy is important for promoting healthy growth and continuing to seek love and intimate relationships. You do not have to get even or vicious. 

“Imitation is a form of flattery.”

Childhood trauma; lack of social and emotional development leading to unsuccessful attempts from rejections is why narcissists are the parasites that humiliate. Racism, sexism and homophobia, is a few others reason as why there are "relationship haters ". Those issues are rooted systematic and familial upbringing.

You can step away from being constantly bitten by participating in and complimenting your validation. Confining in your partner will be the best option for consolidation.  No one should have any extra boost pressured by someone else's uptight view.

Credit John Kevin

It's a long road, and some naysayers think they can define your love life. 

Stand up cause words comes with affects, your feelings are valid!

In the humbling words of Eleanor Roosevelt, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."